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Well. Anyone else experiencing this? Growing up, always surrounded by people who were adopted too. Quite normal. Later discover it probably isn't that usual, but friends are supportive. One day do the 'discover the natural family' thing, and slowly make contact. Feel sooooo happy to find people who look like you. Feel calm. Then, invite partner to meet natural mother. Feel whole raft of emotions - shame, guilt, confusion. Because once again - it isn't normal. He looks at me strangely - even though he's supported me throughout my search etc and has always known i was adopted and my beautiful parents aren't really my parents. He's been there when my nephews whisper about how 'i'm not really my brother's sister because i'm adopted'. Yet he just doesn't get it today how upset i am that he didn't think i look like my natural mother. And then I discover that his country just didn't have this back in the day. No stigma. They had social security for unmarried women (or there just weren't any - I'm still trying to figure that all out!). And then I feel angry. Angry at the stigma that made it ok to take a baby away, leave it crying in a cot (i've seen the records). Yes my experience iwth my family has been incredible and i've loved getting to know my natural mother too - it's all great. But. It seems to be so old, and soooooo nineteenth century! And the way some of the mothers were treated! And the stigma about it growing up - I am just sick of it. I thought it was gone and yet suddenly - it was back today. I'm illegitimate. Unwanted. And I know rationally that i am not. But all that stuff about knowing other kids were wanted and born etc whereas I was 'chosen' because i'd first been given up. Because society had decided that unmarried women couldn't take care of their kids. And I just feel angry about it all like I never have before. Is this normal???
I'm looking for Eustons. Please contact me if you are a Euston
any one born at avonhurst private hospital 5 queens rd south melb vic and was your mother refered to avonhurst by Dr ray cranshaw Hart of 85 St Vincent Place Albert Park Melb VIC do not hesitate to contact me at [email protected]
any one born at avonhurst private hospital 1940s 50s did dr hart refer your mother to that hospital
thank for having me
Hi, I have just joined and is reassuring that so many of us share somewhat similar stories ...shame they are not all good ones!
I am yet to find any bio family and don't think I will thanks to the secrecy that my adoptive parents "arranged", but here's hoping!
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